I had a very stressful weekend , I had to show up to play a role in Toastmasters , but its a new week, I had this thing in my mind I needed to share , We all have a choice, Unless you’ve been under a rock, you’ve heard all the praise surrounding the movie Slumdog Millionaire. One of the most fascinating aspects of the film is actually the soundtrack and the story of its composer, A. R. Rahman. He won two Oscars for his work on the score and when accepting his second award, his words were short and to the point: “All my life I had a choice of hate and love. I chose love and I’m here.” Powerful words to be sure, but what do they mean?
For me, it’s quite simple. Everyday we have the opportunity to be positive or negative influences in our universe. Each day we are confronted with the chance to build up and support or knock down and destroy. Which course do you take?
When your babe / guy comes to you with an idea she is extra excited about. Do you quickly point out all flaws and why it will never work, or do you tell her it’s awesome and ask how you can help her make it happen? Love or Hate? A co-worker announces that she’s getting married and enthusiastically shows her ring. Do you let them know you’re happy for them, or do whisper to colleagues that the ring probably is fake? Love or Hate? You are super close with your sister and she gets an amazing job offer across the country. Do you give her a major guilt trip trying to get her to stay or do you send her off with your best wishes and a big party? Love or Hate?
Its better not to miss the opportunity of choosing love all the time , I have been there and I know how it feels , and believe me I know better now ,God is love ,We are constantly given these opportunities to choose and the path you choose has an impact not only on you, but those you interact with. Just think about how differently we receive someone that flashes a smile instead of a scowl. Now think of living your life as that smile.
But make no mistake; this is NOT the 80’s mantra “don’t worry, be happy.” Acting with love doesn’t mean that you view the world through roses and act as if our troubles and conflicts don’t exist. That would be silly. Choosing love allows us to act in affirmation. To support and love, but to also protest and demonstrate. To lift someone up, but to also let someone know what he said wasn’t cool. When I express outrage about our leaders , it is not because I hate them . My motivation comes from a love of justice and respect for the human community.
So what does it mean to walk in love? It means support your friend, congratulate your co-worker and be happy for your sister. It means, love and respect yourself while respecting others around you and the space they occupy. It means thinking about how to make things better while understanding that someone else’s success doesn’t insure your failure. It also means confronting injustice, standing up for what’s right and realizing that hate only destroys the hater.
Choosing this path doesn’t make you weak. Truly, only those of the strongest character can choose love every time. I am not there yet (especially when I’m behind the wheel, it’s very hard to find love there!) and just like you, each day I have the opportunity to do better. Everyday I have the choice between love and hate. Today, I choose Love.