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And they say “I DO “ May 7, 2010

Filed under: Life — charmingff @ 1:49 pm

I performed as the Master of a wedding ceremony(MC ) just this saturday , It was all fun, looking radiant and Pinky .I had met with the groom 2 days before the D day and he seemed very excited and happy , we shared some stories , he told me how he met his wife and told me his present challenges now that it’s just 2 days to his wedding . Righthere in the fast food joint , I gazed into his eyes , I saw someone who was happy to say I DO , and can’t just wait to be married , I asked him some questions  that would aid me as the MC .

After my programme on saturday ,I got to the venue of the wedding , all was set , everyone looking bright and sharp , I anchored , the Bride was pretty , they where so into each  other , nice site and they would live happily ever after .

I got home and had a re-cap of all that has happened , wish I  could have done more as  the MC , I know I didn’t put up my best show ,ideas  started to flow and I know my next show is going to be better . I sat on  my bed , a book  caught my fancy , book by TD JAKES titled BEFORE YOU DO , my sister had finished reading , I settled down to read ,Yes marriage ! , Yes wedding ! I want to know the outrageous implications of marriage ,Marriage is taken so lightly now that people think they are shopping for a new item , he said he told some guy who wanted to marry his daughter  and I quote

I hope you see not only the face of your sweetie pie , but the face of someone you will live and wake up  to next for the rest of your life , this person you will watch age alongside you , this is the person you will run to when life seems cold and pains are unbearable , this is the person of your best choice , the one you choose a weapon or an artist in her medium , he /she is your weapon of choice when you fight layoffs , mounting bills , pressure , and unimaginable challenge , this is the person with whom you birth new life together , And it may be the person you have to look at when you have to bury one another prematurely , this is the person you’ll see when you convulse with aches and pains of disease and injury ,the only person who is with you after you and God .

After reading some chapters I was teary eyed , I mean to say I shed tears , I know am going to finish the book very soon , but have gained so much , I realised fortunes have been gained and lost , marriages mended and torn , children born and buried , life’s chattered , because of Marital decisions

Like watching a movie of myself , in an Olympic medal , Oscar-winning performance I began to perform a mental dress rehearsal to prepare for the actuality of this day , Someday its gonna come , but before then , whats going to happen , I wish I had read this book a long time ago , but come to think of it a lot of people already said I DO not without a fore-knowledge , Lord help me , Many people know all of these  information and still struggle .While we often think we are looking for a female/Male  version of ourselves , more often than not , we typically end up with someone who is much like us , as water is like vodka  ,In the marriage ceremony , the officiate declares ” I now pronounce you man and wife”, but isn’t it funny that something so important could be said so quickly then take the next years to materialize into its fullest capacity

Today many married people are like slaves who jumped off the boat before it landed , imagine the fear and anxiety that made them make decisions , some are Good choices , some are not God choices (LORD HAVE MERCY) some know how to work it out , some don’t know how to work it out , some can live without their spouse , some can live without them ,

One thing I know is the more I wait the more I learn and get prepared ,I need to create in myself an openness to change and an unstanding that much correction will be needed for what 2 people shall face together , I need to make this attitude my charter for how I will operate in my new country of  togetherness .

There is a lot to know before you say I do , there is more to learn after saying I do , there is no Fear in saying I do , eventually very soon you would have DONE IT , and then you have to make it work  ,For some its a bed of roses , for some thorns , but its all in what we make it , don’t make it all about you , make it all about God helps us

The most important of life’s battle is the one we fight daily in the silent chambers of our soul ,

I lay it down at your feet oh Lord , treat this case its yours .

love you always



5 Responses to “And they say “I DO “”

  1. Smatt Says:

    Incisive. Got me reflecting too.

    Experiencing separations and divorces makes my throat dry sometimes when I think abt marriage.

    I guess there’s no choice, right. God guide my steps. Can’t afford to slip.

  2. Paul Stone Says:

    Wow! a well laid out thought i must say, you opened my eyes to yet another perspective. I especially love the last two paragraphs, it couldn’t have been expressed better “…its all in what we make it , don’t make it all about you , make it all about God…”. Like you said “One thing I know is the more I wait the more I learn and get prepared ,I need to create in myself an openness to change and an understanding that much correction will be needed for what 2 people shall face together” …As far as the subject of marriage is concerned, we all should adopt your phrase. Again i say wow! and Thanks for sharing.

    • charmingff Says:

      thanks so much Paul for stopping by here , how nice of you to have dropped very inspiring comment , cheers

  3. Adeyinka Says:

    nice one

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