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Better than then March 22, 2011

Filed under: Life — charmingff @ 9:56 am

Wow ,another year is gone , thank God for his mercies , I tried not to write , infact am still fighting the feeling , cant say I was really excited but mixed feelings , yeah , One thing I always check is achievement , every year that I live once am hail and healthy , then I evaluate and try to audit achievement in the past one year that have spent , most times I write down goals , and I realized that in the past one year , some of my dreams have been fulfilled , some not all , guess I have just one or two things left on the list but don’t ask me .

I enjoyed my birthday beyond what I expected , I cried like two days before 21st and really I cant really say why I was crying , uncontrollable tears , basically I know am not where I want to be , but I know am on my way already ,Over the years I looked my self as a beautiful woman who is very confident and not competitive with other women.Though there are times when I get so afraid because I don’t want to fail God and fail myself .

Sometimes I feel regrets for somethings I should have done in the past , for silly things that have happened in the past for good opportunities that just slip away , but once one door closes , so many others open , the value you keep adding to your life determines the type of opportunities that you will attract . I took sometimes to learn new things like speaking Good British English , because I know that I got Media on my mind , and my shows will be coming up , its better to do it well .

Another thing I realized is , most of us feel there’s so much competition going on in the world , but from my very own point of view there is no competition , no one is competing with us , and we also put ourselves under unnecessary pressure . Little wonder why am still single , am sure you cant imagine why? , everyone ask why ? why ? why ? , I see the positive part of it than the negative ,the more I wait the better I become , its better to be Single and whole , than to be married and Worst , but I cant deny my femininity atimes , the feeling to love and be loved , and dreams and vision of living happily ever after to someone I really love and adore ,there are times I fall in and out of Love ,its no big deal , I have learnt to manage my emotions , I cant get everything or everybody I want , meanwhile am channeling my energy to things I love to do , am working on my dreams , though some people think its getting the whole lot out of me, but as scattered as the dreams look now , very soon I know God will be glad that I took time out to discover me and pursue why am on earth . Its better not to live your life in a cycle that leads to no growth and fulfillment, you need to start each day armed with a clear vision of what you want to achieve in life , am also guilty of executing daily plans , this needs a lot of discipline , to achieve so much one has to be disciplined ,its very key , I found out that its very easy to procrastinate or be carried away by helping others especially our Employers than to achieve their dreams while they smile to the banks with 10 figures or more at the end of the day or monthly , but we neglect executing our ideas , most especially Women , once a lady is married then she believes she lives for her family ,am not against that , but what about our childhood dreams , what about the reason why we are on earth , and that is why I have thought of coming up with a program called EVOLVED WOMEN , its going to help rediscover women, its a radio program going through the re-branding/sponsorship state ,by faith this dreams will come to reality by the Grace of God

I have had my own fair share of Love and Pain , and I know what it really means , when I see people go through things have gone through before , because am an emotional person , I get involved and try to Help , little wonder why at times I see less privileged people and feel so much compassion , I always wish I had a penny for every heart that’s broken , I really wish I could help sort every childhood dreams that has never been realized

A friend of mine a blogger says and I quote “It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.There are times I really want to quit , times when I feel I cant do somethings like even MC weddings , I get calls for Jobs here and there and they turn out to be good . Relationships are good especially with good friends but you have to be a good friend too . Irrespective of whomever you meet in life please and please be good . There are times when I look back at people I had lost I wish I could turn back the hands of time but its not possible .The only thing is time changes yesterday , tomorrow is definitely going to be better than yesterday , if only we just believe

One thing I seek so much in my life that I think about every second is God . I want to know God , even though I see God smiling and saying ” Funmi you can do better with me ” , yes ! yes! I want to know his mind , I want instructions on every thing , even things as simple as what to eat and where to go . Over the years I have realized majority of my mistakes and set backs come from lack of working according to the will of God or seeking God’s mind . He has a will and His will makes a Way .Most of us just dabble into things here and there including me without knowing God’s mind , its not the best . I tell young people its better to get it right on time , so you don’t waste too much time , Life is such a beautiful place and time is Golden , but one day I opened my bible and I saw something that struck me ” timing is the lords business ” I got so shocked that I closed the bible and I cant remember where the book /verse/chapter of the bible I saw it .
God needed to pass that message quickly so I can get some worries off my mind .

I want to write a book this year , this was part of last year’s dreams that I didn’t accomplish , but I know better that I CAN DO IT , IF I TRY .I long to go back on air soon , and bless lives as soon as I can .I long to get married and be a very good wife and mother of my kids . I long to get more exposure professionally .I long to be the best for my immediate family and my friends .I long to do so many new things , I long to go for a Vacation again this year . l long to know God and see him more clearly , Love him more dearly , Follow him more nearly everyday of my New Year

Finally you wont loose anything by getting in tune with your real self , our greatness doesn’t happen overnight. So while you are tossing seeds of hope here and there, it’s likely that you experience imperfect people, human nature, obstacles
Don’t get discouraged by the details, by people, by the mountains that keep popping up, HE will use it all to shape your identity and define your future.

God bless you for stopping by to read through my blog

Charming love you



Hi Goliath , I am David !!! March 10, 2011

Filed under: Life — charmingff @ 7:03 pm

For real being short tempered is been termed as a weakness , but there are times you just get very angry like you can crest an earthquake , am sure some of us have been in this kinda state before Oh, there are times that the great intentions of the heart are so frustrated by the frail reality of our humanness.

Makes me wonder what happened someday, I was going to have my bath in my apartment and some lady stepped on my toes , step as in did something so embarrassing and cruel to me ,at first I tried to manage my temper , I tried to calm down , but she was rather too tough for me , In that moment I yelled, I was too furious that I threw caution into the winds , After the whole scene , I went into my room and I was quiet , I sat down looking very disappointed in myself I chastised myself for being so far from God’s standard of gentleness and patience and long-suffering love. I felt weak. I felt the sting of failure.

But, isn’t that part of it? Realizing how frail our humanity makes us. I admitted my failure but refuse to wallow in it.

Deal with the issue but not heap shame on the offender. Some minutes later , the Lady walked into my room to apologize for what happened . I was ashamed of Me .I told her it was fine , that I have nothing against her and she was happy . (I’m nothing if not dramatic.) Yet, “and then something in me says” pick up the pieces of a wasted, angry morning. Set my activities aside, set demands aside, set the world’s expectations aside and infuse bad with good.

I’m not capable of this. But God’s spirit in me is so very capable.

There are times when people hurt you , when people throw insults at you like fresh air , when hurting people hurt you ,you get angry , you get furious , but whatever happens learn to close doors gently .

I remembered the story of a guy called DAVID , who fought a Giant called GOLIATH , no one would ever believe that just a stone was capable of running down the Giant , a well harmed and trained giant , to an ordinary Bush boy , this means that it’s not in the Volume of words you speak when you are angry, or actions you show , lately have been pressed but not crushed , persecuted but not abandoned by GOD , but because I have learnt my lessons , I just keep my cool , and don’t get worked up over petty things that could be overlooked ,I don’t need to show up too strong that I can handle the battles of life like a Goliath , I might just need to get the right stones like David and win the battles quietly , At times we don’t need to get so much wrapped up in what you are going to do about issues , but rather in what you want to be.

Dear Friend … I don’t know how. None of us really do. But the beauty of HIM is that He never asks us to figure all of life out. He simply says, follow ME. Follow ME in this minute and the next and the next.

So, step by imperfect step, I do. Whispering to myself , I want to be so much more … we need help to unravel the great mystery of being so very human with a soul that cries for more and more “and then some.”

Manage your emotions , you might just avoid fighting .

Loving thoughts