A Voice To Be Heard!

…life, the way i see it and what i learn from it!

I NEED SOMEONE! February 18, 2010

Filed under: Me — charmingff @ 8:41 am

A quest in order to find
what lies in

My heart

In my soul

On my mind

So many weaknesses and faults

Sometimes serenity
sometimes misery

So complex and I say who can comprehend

I need a love that’s pure and true!

I need someone

who’s shoulder just to cry on

To ease the agony

and find tranquility

Share the inner most and secret thoughts

Someone who speaks words of love and mean so much

And Give a smile that would hide my pain

I need a love that’s pure and true !

Someone who’s got a special kind of love

that keeps me handlin

that makes everything alright

that makes life worth living

I need a love that’s pure and true!

Sweet and gentle touch

Lord I need,

I need someone my Lord

Can always find it in you JESUS

That someone is you


Re-write your own scripts September 11, 2009

Filed under: Lessons,Life,Me,My Experiences,Mystery — charmingff @ 8:31 am


It has been a very funny week , a unforgetable one to be precise , emotions running, jamming here and there , so funny , but I say to myself this too shall pass , I visualised  myself smiling someday soon . I went back to my bookshelf to dig out one of the books I had read before like 2 years ago , In Pursuit of Peace ,by Joyce Meyer . powerful book , I noticed I had unrest , I lacked peace , and I needed to get out of it , so I had to go in pursuit of peace , God gives peace.

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Dear Friends,Imagine the world you live in as a movie set, yes we do wrong thing but we also do right things “I realize that was the set which fit perfectly the character I’ve chosen to play, and the drama I’ve been choosing to enact.”

But now we should no longer be who we used to be , we should choose to be our most radiant self, dwelling at the highest level of our creative possibility.We need to manufacture the set, the drama, and our personality with  the power of our subconscious mind, because for me now I choose differently. My ego is no longer in charge, because I remember that God is. I remember I’m the child of a divine creator, and I choose to manifest the glory of God that is within me.”

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Now go rest, play, enjoy, improve, forgive and get ready — while your set’s being changed! And on the pages of your Life God will change your story


With love,



The 6th Sense August 13, 2009

Filed under: Lessons,Me — charmingff @ 9:16 am

I thought this 6th sense will have to wait till its  of  popular demand , I had a chat with a friend and I got loads of wrong guesses as to what the 6th sense is, Its a good morning  and I feel beautiful from the inside out , though things have been a bit rough ,one virtue am learning and doing is Patience ,I woke up in the middle of the night thinking I slept alone and I woke up alone and I still cant phantom the logic behind this except for Psalm3 vrs 5 .And I thought

  • What if, God stopped loving and caring for us?
  • What if God decided to stop leading us tomorrow because we didn’t follow Him today?
  • What  if, God would not hear us today because we would  not listen to Him?
  • What if, God met our needs the way we give Him  our lives???
  • What if God couldn’t take the time to bless us today because  we couldn’t take the time to thank Him yesterday?

And it was What if ? What if ? till I fell asleep again to wake up this morning and here I am sharing with you the 6TH and  uncommon sense which is the sense of PRAISING

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The dictionary says praise originally meant to set a price on or appraise. The dictionary gives meanings of: to commend the worth of; express approval or admiration of, to laud the glory of (God, etc.), as in song; glorify; extol.Praise is a natural response to God which happens as a result of knowing God. The Bible is filled with references to praising God. Praise must be expressed with words. Worship can be expressed by words or actions.

Who do we praise ? because let everything that has breath praise the Lord.

Why do we praise ? Because God deserves praise

From the very dawn of time, the experience of mankind in their relationship with God has been one of thanksgiving. The creation of the world and mankind was an act of love and self-giving from God which was conditional on one thing alone – that man thankfully return that love. God gave us life and love and in return, we chose death and thanklessness. He, however, refused to give up. Despite our selfish desire to live as if God did not exist, He kept returning to us again and again, as a jilted lover to His beloved.here are many things for which we should give thanks. We live in a great land, we have the freedom to say and do what  we wish,We have many THINGS indeed.Let’s celebrate each Day giving PRAISE for what is proper and remember that it does not end there, but continues forever. Those who are alive  are the ones Praising and thanking Him. Those who are dead are not interested in PRAISE and thanks.

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The strange thing about all of this is that we are walking, talking, breathing, and existing, and yet, some of us are already dead. So today,  pause for a special moment of thanks, I’m realizing how much of my prayer life focuses on things that concern me, directly or indirectly. Not every prayer request or praise is made for my benefit, but they tend to be requests and praises for things that are factors in my own life—health, weather, forgiveness, family matters, world issues that concern me.it is certainly good to praise God for the ways he acts in our lives—but how easy it is to unconsciously restrict our praise to the attributes that appeal to us or impact us in some way!

God has wired us to respond with praise to things that amaze and overwhelm us and that is why I term it the 6TH and UNCOMMON SENSE If that joyful feeling is absent from our  lives, I suggest we spend  time in quiet contemplation of God’s attributes—and not just the ones that benefit us personally!

  • if you don’t Praise God for being a Nigerian maybe you will praise him when you are an Eskimo
  • if you don’t praise God for your other 5 senses maybe you will  praise him when you have a down syndrome
  • if you don’t praise him in the morning when you wake up maybe you will praise him in the night when you have an accident and your leg is to be amputated
  • if you don’t praise him in the day maybe you will praise him when you cant see the night

sometimes we never feel the essence of life, sometimes we never feel somethings can happen to us, sometimes we just live life without a thought of where we started and where we would end, sometimes we just never face the truth sometimes…………we just wont PRAISE God for Then to see  NOW,  and for a then to be here for you will there

let  this 6th and uncommon sense flow through your veins like your blood , I know its not easy , life is full of ups and downs , melt and crashed down economy , but remember you are pressed but not crushed , you are persecuted but not abandoned , stormed down but not destroyed, when everything else fails , when all the 5 senses refuse to work remember apply the 6Th and uncommon sense PRAISE !!!

do you agree/disagree  that the act of PRAISING is the 6th and uncommon sense, drop your comments ………

Ain’t a brag

love you still



MY QUEST SERIES August 7, 2009

Filed under: Lessons,Life,Me,My Experiences — charmingff @ 12:55 pm

As I got to work this morning I made myself a cup of coffee , I took turns to read different blogs , I subscribed to a lot of blogs because am a blogger and I have kept discovering ways of becoming a better blogger day in day out , more-so this has to do with my quest for knowledge about  LIFE , everything about life .Really have been having a  nice time with myself and I see myself getting sweeter and sweeter everyday(lol).In the past one year have touch the depth of ME .

I use myself as example all the time because I desire to share my experiences and the lessons I learnt from it , I also dont want to limit my SHARING to my experiences and that is one of the reasons why I read , and listen .

I wake up every morning and the first thing that comes out of my mouth is GOOD MORNING JESUS , THANK YOU LORD , this have been doing for a long time , in my house it is forbidden for you to wake up and not say your  prayers , so even when I cant settle down to say the prayers , I do it while bathing or doing my activities , I sing and listen to sermons already stored on my phone ,this has become part of me with time .When I get to work I commit the day into the hands of God and sanctify my office,  I turn on my System  to listen to JOYCE MEYER ,now this is the real devotion , this woman is my mentor and I can say I have gained a lot from her life , now I make sure I listen to her pod-cast like everyday over and over ,I subscribed for her  monthly magazine, video et .al , this is because I want to learn , I want to know GOD more improve my pattern of living , I desire to become a BETTER ME , FRIEND , SISTER , MOTHER , CO-WORKER , SPEAKER ,WRITER WIFE my list is endless .


In my quest to become a GOOD  CHRISTAIN , I read my bible to pattern my life according to the word of GOD , which is the lamb unto my feet and the light unto every path I thread , I also subscribe to some  daily devotionals on-line, trust me I cant afford my steps not to be ordered by God , have been through so much to want to live my life all by myself , so I allow him run the show  , he knows better .There is power in the word ,when I was in the secondary school I was a serious bible scholar I  read and cram the bible and it helped to increase my level of assimilation , I was the best in my class , I was just unbeatable but when I entered the UNI my zeal dropped and I payed for it dearly , this is my testimony . So if you want to become THE BEST YOU , TRY GOD NOW! NOW! and stay GLUED


In my Quest to discover my PURPOSE and VISION,  I listen to JOYCEMEYER /MYLES MONROE, PAULA WHITE  /TD JAKES etc , I want to simplify my life and live a fulfilled life by GOD’S grace , I want to become a sweeter ME ,I want to give  pure /unadulterated love , I notice I was lacking  some attributes like last year , then I decided to take the bull by the horns , I became the leader of  a GROUP in my church and  I had to show love whether  I like it or not ,then I began to Love by force till it became part of me God knows these people cant wish for a better leader , I also had some funny habits that I had to drop , I learnt to naturally take things easy , life is beautiful and simple , why get too much and keep it when there is so much to give , Now I know better , Get mentors,  Good mentors  are inevitable.


In my Quest to pursue to childhood PASSION  , I had to look for people who are successful in that field , I love to talk not just say anything but make good sence, I want to help people , I long to see people’s dreams come to reality while am on my way to where I wanna be,  I joined TOASTMASTERS International Org to become a competent communicator , I notice there are rules / laws guiding communication and I need to learn and practice , I picked Oprah , watch Ellen , watch Tyra , I want to be on air I went to the radio station hanged around announcers , watch them , practice and now I not the best but I can do it .You need to surround yourself with the people who are doing well in your field , if you have a dream , you need to watch and see , and read about People who have done it better and with time your own ideas will begin to flow .


In my Quest to become  a WIFE, which is every ladies dream , I know marriage is a very controversial issue , people have their opinions , people have both good and bad experiences ,  MARRIAGE has become a topic that we cant but discus , I took up 2 people with successful marriages and I kept very close relationship with them , I want to enjoy my marriage I don’t want to live in HELL(BAD MARRIAGE) , I bought books , I learnt how to COOK different type of dishes , I search for materials on-line , I attend seminars ,  I have a good idea of what I want in mind and once I see it I’ll go for it , once I have the WILL , God will make the way , I don’t want to be found wanting in that institution when I enter it , I want the MAN to be ,  meet me prepared , My mind is open to new ideas ,I have my pen and paper alert all the time, once I learn or reason out a new thing I write it out  because I want to do what I WRITE , Do you feel you should be a better spouse? Watch faithful, loving spouses in action, and never, never concentrate on the ones who aren’t good. They don’t even apply here in any way. 


In my quest to become a better (PROFESSIONAL)SAT/TXP Engineer , I had to study  beyond what I do everyday, I paid to write some professional exams and I have not stopped , this Job foots my daily bills , and I have to do my best to keep it  ,  I work in a male dominated industry and as a lady you really to prove yourself to be relevant , I am even looking beyond what I do now and that is the reason why I said I need a change ,  I have been making moves writing exams that will finally land me in my destination , I know change will come because am prepared for it .

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there is something inside of us all that in the midnight hour behind close doors when no one is there and you’ve got so much and you might even be tempted to give up , but you have to look inside of you and make the decision to either give UP or go ON , I intend to continue this QUEST SERIES , to share real life experiences with you, life the way I see it and what I learn from it .

You want to be great, start imagining what it feels like to be great. Every week come up with something to incorporate into your new “self”. Watch as your new “self” grows and becomes better every day, be determined , diligent and daring .

for joyce

love you



Plan to plan …..dreams come true August 3, 2009

Filed under: Me — charmingff @ 8:41 am

I had a very fulfilled weekend , I went on air by myself for the very first time , I got the deal to present for 5 mins on a programme every Saturday , my segment is called Beauty and Brains , things are getting better , I know someday my 5 minutes will turn to 1hr and I can really get the chance to inspire and motivate people like I want , I had to cancel my role in toastmasters to make this dream a reality , I didn’t see it coming this soon , but its here now and my days of wishing and dreaming is over , its time for improvement , time to get my own audience and do my own thing and be the best .


I had plan to do this when  I was very young , but I couldn’t go straight into it because of my choice of study in school , but still I kept my plan , and I know someday something is going to happen and I kept my dream alive , the link to this 5mins Job came from facebook , somebody who knows someone gave me the link , and with so much zeal I followed my passion , A lot of us have dreams ,plans , some to finish school and get married to a nice dude , some want to travel around the world ,even of you haven’t done all you plan  or even passed the age , but don’t stop planning

I share these stories to let you know that while there’s nothing inherently wrong with a plan, I would not be where I am today if I didn’t have a clear idea of what I wanted and a concept of what’s necessary to move forward. Let your “plan” be like water — free flowing and able to alter direction as the path changes. Figure out what you want out of life and figure ways to get it done and remember the saying: “Want to see God laugh? Make a plan!”

Join me on Eko – 89.75fm Saturdays   11am-12noon , my 5mins Beauty and Brain segment ……dreams come true


My Manyself July 20, 2009

Filed under: Me — charmingff @ 1:59 pm

Wow! What to say. I had such an emotionally draining day yesterday. Sometimes life comes at you so fast that you literally have to stop and exhale so as not to get caught up in the madness. That’s what happened to me. So many things came once that I literally had to take a moment  to  be on my own .It was such an emotional release and I felt so much better after. I had let go of all my worries and was now in a place to tackle one thing at a time. I accepted that no matter how I felt, my situation was not going to change without action on my part. The past year has seen my life take a huge change. My finances not so bad and my job situation are tenuous at best. School seems to be never ending, and my personal life going through re-construction.

I was spreading myself too thin trying to address everything at once. After my momentary breakdown, (yes, I call it that) I took the time to sit down and work my way through my situations. I addressed them one at a time. I have decided that moving forward I would live on a cash only basis. The finance charges are killing me. Next,  my job. I can only do what I can which is as my job requires. Everything else is in my control. I am working on my business proposal with my sisters , as well as my own plan, so it is a matter of focusing on getting those up and running. School is off great priority priority. Getting the MBA  is a must .  Then I wait for approval.


In the interim I can work on myself. Even writing this down is proving cathartic. We all need an outlet and writing is it for me. Find your outlet, and receive your blessings. Stay blessed.


I LOVE me July 16, 2009

Filed under: Me — charmingff @ 8:37 am